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Site Home › Self Enhancement › Self Motivations
 

Can Pain Be A Motivator?

 
Author: Alvah Parker

Carol was a new client. She had been looking for a job for several weeks and wasnt having much success. As with most of my clients I asked her to envision herself working in the job she really wanted. As we talked she was really excited about the possibilities. I really caught her short though when I asked her what did she see happening if she couldn't find this job.

Like many of my clients Carol was reluctant to visit a place of pain. Many clients object to that question saying that they dont want to think negatively. There is so much written today about positive thinking that most of us go around like Pollyannas believing that wishing will make it so. There is however merit in acknowledging the possibility of pain.

A part of the population is very competitive. Winning is a strong value for them. On one of my trips to NY I played checkers with my grandson. When he saw he was losing he hit the board so all the pieces got mixed up. I guess he thought it would be better to have no one win then for him to lose. At least for now he is extremely competitive. Those who are very competitive hate to lose so that they do whatever it takes to make it happen. (Sometimes at someone elses expense!)

What about the rest of us? I include myself here too because I am not someone who likes winning for its own sake. How can those of us who arent so fiercely competitive really commit to a goal and make it happen? One way is to visit the negative outcome of not achieving the goal. The more painful the outcome the more motivated youll be to work toward your goal and away from the pain.

One branch manager I had at AT&T told the management team that she liked to hire sales people who had just taken a big mortgage on a house. (The bigger the better!) Without making the sales these people would lose their homes. Now that is a huge negative impact for not making quota. (I drew the line when she asked us to encourage the sales force to increase their debt!)

Your vision is something you want to move toward and the negative outcome is something you want to move away from. Sometimes it is the moving away from piece that is more motivating than the moving toward one.

If you have ever had a manager with a bad temper who screamed at people who didnt do the job the way he/she wanted it done then you understand the motivating power of the moving away from outcome. (Think Youre fired and Donald Trump) Chances are these bosses get the job done but what you really want to do is move away from them. If Carol had a boss like that then she would know that the negative impact of not finding the job she envisioned. She would have to continue working for that boss.

Solo professionals and sales people know that when they are hungry (making their quota literally puts food on the table) they work harder, smarter and faster to accomplish the work. Here you could be working toward the vision of plenty of food or away from an empty table.

So how about you? What are you doing to reach your goals? Do you feel yourself floundering as the year is progressing? Look at your business or career plan. Are you close to reaching your goals? If you want to speed up the process consider finding the impact of a negative outcome.

Take action

1. What is your vision? If you would like a copy of Ten Ideas To Help You Create A Vision of Your Ideal Work-Life use the link below http://www.asparker.com/casestudy3.html and go to the end of Sarahs story.

2. What is the negative impact of not accomplishing your goal?

3. Do you feel energy and excitement from your vision?

4. Are you repelled by the negative impact?

5. How can you use both of these to move yourself forward?

Author Bio:

Alvah Parker

Alvah Parker of Parker Associates works with high potential lawyers and other professionals who want to build a practice that is fun, fulfilling and profitable. She does this by helping her clients to market themselves in a focused and intentional way.

Alvah spent 15 years at AT&T in sales and marketing. Because she was skilled at building strong relationships with her clients Alvah was selected to be in AT&T?s prestigious Council of Leaders, an honor reserved for those in the top 3% of the sales force.

Alvah got her coaching training at Coach University and graduated in 1999. She has successfully completed the first phase of an advanced coaching program designed for coaches who wish to be practice advisors to members of the various professions. She continues to enhance her skills with additional training and coaching.

In addition to her coaching practice Alvah also volunteers to counsels small business owners as a SCORE Counselor. SCORE is part of the Small Business Administration.

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