A root of bitterness can easily spring up in the marital relationship, as living within such close proximity of a person there are ample opportunities to be offended. If you are not careful offenses and neglect can sever you from meaningful relationship and thwart the marital union. A person who is bitter can respond in a number of ways from employing the cold shoulder treatment, to lashing out in anger, verbalizing profanity and obscenities, and at the emotional breaking point contemptfully resort to adultery to fully manifest their defiance.

Maintaining a good attitude and right mindset toward your spouse is work. Such mental exertion is not for the faint in heart. You have to be willing to fight for your marriage.

To sustain a loving, life-giving marriage both must be sober minded and alert to the seductions of the soul. Not only must you guard your own heart, but you must also discern the traps and snares that might beset your spouse when they are away from the house.

Most importantly happily and wholeheartedly attend to one another's needs emotional and physical to fill one another's love tank and fortify the union. Remember people don't typically get out of a Rolls Royce to ride in a VW. Neither do spouses wander away looking for hamburgers when they are being served filet mignon at home.

Therefore serve and feed one another's needs lest another does. Remember men if you don't take your wives out on a date, someone else will. Ladies, if you don't seduce your husband rest assured another woman will.

Men compliment your wives and affirm their beauty and exceptional qualities. The more you affirm women the more they open up like a flower unto you.

Ladies a man can be won by caring for him from his chest to his knees. He's rather simple. Feed him and make love to him.

Divorce is no fun. I have been there and experienced it myself. I know. It helps to remember the painful consequences of infidelity before you take the plunge into sexual immorality.

Among the many reasons to be faithful to your spouse and not cheat on them are as follows:

1.You might get dismembered, maimed or killed. John Bobbits wife cut his penis off when he cheated on her. Others have had knives and guns used on them when they cheated on their spouses. Next time you cheat remember it might be your last as death may be near.

2.Fear of getting caught torments the soul. Fear has torment and puts you in a continual state of alert. Life on the run is no way to live. In your patience possess your soul and harness your bodily appetites lest you be enslaved to them. There are many who are emotional fugitives living life on the run in their own marriages. Secrecy and continually tried to hide every little clue and indiscretion is not a meaningful existence.

3.Adultery destroys not only your marriage but also your children as they grow up without emotional stability and a firm family foundation. By committing you not only curse yourself but your offspring. Is it really worth perpetuating pain onward into your future and posterity? I think not. Get a grip and some pyschological counseling if need be.

4.Adultery dishonors you and diminishes you as a person. Suddenly your word no longer means anything. You therefore become incongruent and begin to doubt even yourself, realizing that you are double-minded and given to dishonesty. Remember your word equals your worth.

5.You reap what you sow. What comes around goes around. Don't be so self-absorbed to think that you too will not suffer a similar situation when your spouse finds out about your misbehavior. Humans can be very vengeful and rarely hold back when they desire to get even. A spouse gone evil can become an arch enemy when they turn on you, as they no just how to get you where it hurts the most. Therefore respect and uphold your spouse so you too will receive the same in return.

You had enough confidence and certainty in that person to marry them. Why then should you cheat on them and disregard all of your marital history, fond memories and the future which you have together. Don't do it!

Marriage only gets better over time as you hang in there and work through your differences, seek mutual understanding, prefer one another and cooperatively work through your issues believing for the best.

Your best days and your blessed days are ahead of you!